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Mary

They tell you life is easy and beautiful all the time and if you’re happy it will always go smooth without any troubles or difficulties? LIARS!

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However, the trick is not only about convincing yourself that after a difficulty has passed the good times will follow; the real trick is actually during the turbulent times when you choose to challenge yourself that you will get over it; so you start analyzing the problem, innovating the solutions or ways that will help you overcome it, acting and implementing those solutions step by step, even if slowly but consistently and always envisioning yourself celebrating and enjoying the success of defeating that problem as well as gaining more confidence, more knowledge and the power to be in control of your life. 

It’s always during those hard times that people excel and reveal their true and best capabilities; just like the stars that twinkle and sparkle best when it’s the darkest and that’s also when you enjoy the bright moon, or like gold that has to go through fire to be purified, or the diamonds that have to go through harsh polishing phases & cut into pieces to be so beautifully shaped and sparkles with those amazing colors. 

Those people who shine at those times are mostly viewed as lucky people who had everything at their hands to succeed; well, they did, they had the positive mindset, they had the willingness to act, they had the desire to create and innovate, they had the passion to enjoy what they do, they had the control over their inner switch which they turned on and it activated the leader inside to guide them to their objectives without the need of someone else leading them or telling them you can do it because you have the power to. They are seen as happy people because they are lucky, when actually the adjective that combines the words “happy” with “lucky” is the “happy-go-lucky” and not vice versa. They might not be lucky to have rocks thrown at them, but they are surely happy people to be able to view those rocks as being thrown to them to help them in building themselves a staircase to move up.

But if it’s a matter of choice and capability that everyone can have, why do a lot of people have endless difficulties and they seem to be forever drowned in that bottomless well of problems? Because most probably they approach the problems with the most common mindset; the problem is huge and I won’t defeat it by myself. They choose to switch off the inner leader and commander within them that would know how to go through such an obstacle and becomes a stronger person; yes, they choose to give themselves the infamous excuse of I can’t do it. Maybe they don’t want to do some effort by stepping out of the darker room to the brighter one. At the end, it’s their call to act or not, to act positively or passively.

You have the choice to perceive situations and circumstances as problems or ways of growth and enhancements, and you have the choice to approach each with a determination to defeat and learn from or to be defeated by them. And remember, there won’t be rainbows without the rain, and it’s during the rain that view becomes clearer and new things start to grow.

Mary

Continuing with our list of punctuation marks and their uses, here are the rest of the most important and most used marks:

  • The Full Stop/Period (.):

Usage: As the name signifies, it indicates the end of a sentence (I like English.), or with abbreviations (Co. == Company), or initials (Amgad Y. Kaldas).

Format: Space is added after the full stop, but not before. The full stop is followed by upper case word.

  • The Quotation Marks ("  ", '  '):

Usage: Around artistic names (Books, movies, Albums, etc…), for dialogues ("Good morning, Frank," said Hal.), for unusual usage of words and irony (Crystals somehow "know" which shape to grow into.) and (He shared his "wisdom" with me.), and for distinction ("Cheese" is derived from a word in Old English.).

Format: Spaces are added outside the quotation marks (before the opening and after the closing marks), but not inside (xx "xxx" yyy).

  • Ellipsis Mark (…):

Usage: in place of cut off text that won't affect the meaning of the sentence (The film focused on three English learners...studying at university.), or to implicate that there's more to say while chatting, or instead of listing so many items that are already understandable from the first few examples- and so forth or etc.,  or to indicate a pause in a dialogue.

Format: depends on your style, can have space before and after, between, or no spaces around. When at the end of a sentence, a fourth one is usually added as a full stop.

  • Hyphen (-):

Usage: to join words and to separate syllables of a single word (book-case, or a blue-eyed boy), with prefixes (self-motivated, non-English), or in justified text for wrapping a long word at the end of the line.

Format: no spaces on either side of the hyphen.

  • Dash (–, —):

Usage: as a colon to introduce a list, to denote a break in a sentence or to set off parenthetical statements (A flock of sparrows—some of them juveniles—alighted and sang.), or to indicate spans/ranges (pp. 38-55, for ages 3–5), or o show a pause or break in meaning in the middle of a sentence (My brothers—Richard and John—are visiting Hanoi.).

Format: for the "n dash", the smaller one, you can add space on either side, for the "m dash", usually no space are added.

How?  It's the difference between: 

Let's eat grandpa!

Let's eat, grandpa!

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Using the right punctuation marks (and grammar in general) is vital and helps convey messages clearly avoiding misunderstandings and confusions.

For spoken communications, how you say it and the tone that you use in saying it helps expressing what you really mean, but in written communication, you can just go on reading a whole paragraph without completely understanding it unless there are punctuation marks that set the tone of it, clearly differentiate between questions and sentences in any written dialogue, and eliminates ambiguity.

Here are some of the most commonly used (most important) punctuation marks, and when and how to use them:

The Apostrophe ('):

  • Usage: in place of omitted letters (e.g. do not ==> don't), or to express a possessive case (e.g. Sandy's dog).
  • Format: No spaces before or after.

The Comma (,):

  • Usage: to join a list of items in one sentence (My favourite sandwiches are chicken, bacon and ham and cheese.), or to separate clauses (as well as before the conjunctions: for, and, nor, but, or, yet, so), between adjectives, in dates, in numbers. Commas are used where you would pause during talking.
  • Format: Space is added after the comma, but not before (xxx, xxxxxx). The comma is followed by lower case word, unless it's a proper noun or acronym.

The Semi-colon (;):

  • Usage: used for longer and stronger breaks or pauses than a comma. To list complicated, longer lists (The people present were Jamie, who came from New Zealand; John, the milkman's son; and George, a gaunt kind of man.). To join two related independent clauses (My wife would like tea; I would prefer coffee.).
  • Format: Space is added after the semi-colon, but not before (xxx; xxxxxx). The semi-colon is followed by lower case word, unless it's a proper noun or acronym.

The Colon (:):

  • Usage: before a list of items, before a description, before a definition, in ratios, hours and minutes, and before explanation.
  • Format: Space is added after the colon, but not before. The colon is followed by lower case word, unless it's a proper noun or acronym.

To Be Continued ...

Mary

For you who don't know who is Abraham Lincoln, he was the 16th President of the United states of America and one of its greatest leaders. He served two terms, during which the civil war broke out and he was the one to end it. He preserved the country union, reformed the constitution and ended slavery, and many more great actions for which he deserved to be one of the greatest through America's history.

Anyway, we're not discussing here his
political or military triumphs, but his personal accomplishments.  This is about Abraham Lincoln as an everyday person who possessed the qualities of a great leader, utilized what he had to achieve his goal that he always aspired.

One of his most-told about qualities was listening; he always "listened" to others even those opposing him, and after listening carefully to all sides of the story and opinions, only then he would make his decision. He didn't listen to his opponents only, but to all types of people, especially the poor and commons whom he loved and considered family and being one of them; they even used to call him Honest Abe.

Another leader-needed characteristic is - let's call it honesty, aside from the usual honesty we all know and think about - he was honest in giving credit of success to those who deserve it and sharing the blames of failure even though he was the leader of the nation and with the highest rank, he would admit his faults as being part of the country "management team" and being their head.

Of course he had some personal traits and talents that he worked on and which helped him to get where he wanted, like his sense of humor, his great speeches that are still of the few great oratories of all time. These talents and abilities that people can work on and develop, he used in another important aspect as a leader, which is communicating the vision and goals he had to his people, all types of peoples, common and highly educated people. He knew it was important to keep things simple in order for the majority of people to understand and thus support him.

He knew what and whom to delegate responsibilities to; he never thought of leading into every little detail of the nation, but rather chose the right people for the right positions and he would always communicate to them his trust and confidence in doing the right things. He would always mail his generals about what he sees is right and his vision and tell them they have the authority to take the actions they see as valid since they are more aware and qualified than he is in these matters.

Those are just a few of his leading qualities that one can learn from him.

And in short, there's no better place to study what makes people stand out and be the unique persons we know, admire, and appreciate, other than History.